My losses and venting in a way

MoonB · 03-14-2006, 04:39 PM

Alright, I was not going to post this but I changed my mind. After all this is what the forums are about, sharing life stories, having fun for the good times and bad. I have been gone for a while and this is because of the following events in my life. Little under two years ago I lost my grandfather, this man was my idol and who I looked up to in life. He was the type of man I try to become. He lived a great life and was very loved. We lost him to cancer in his mid 80's. 8 weeks later I loose my uncle. He was the uncle I was the closest to and was a very cheerful man considering his cards he was given. He signed up for Vetanam and when he returned developed multableseroses..or MS because of the climate changes and gas that was dropped over there. He was in a wheel chair, lost his wife and everything he loved because of this, but he was always in good spirts. You have to respect someone that can get up everyday and keep leaving and still make jokes to with nefew about how hot that lady is and do you think she would like a ride...meaning on his chair. Now a mother should never have to out live a son, but in this case my grandmother has lost two. Over three weeks ago my other uncle went missing for two weeks. Our family has been trying to get info, but has had a hard time due to the people we are dealing with. A week ago his body was dumped at his house and he was killed. It sounds like is might be someone in the household, he always could say no to anyone needing a place to crash and his door was always open. I was not close to him, but the nature of the death has left an major impact on our family. You hope you can go though life not knowing someone who has lost a love one this way, but let alone a family meamber. But life leaves a funny impact, his daughter just had a child, and she is the cutes little girl. It is a wake up call to see how life can be so cruel, but yet so giving at the same time. I just needed to get this off my chest and sorry for any of the spelling. This weekend I will be heading out agian to see my mom and grandma and try to cheer them up. No family should have to get this small this fast, but thats life. We are thankful for the time we have had, and that is what matters. Sorry if I brought down your day. Thanks for letting me spill a little of my self.

wyeast · 03-14-2006, 04:44 PM

Holy cripes man. Don't worry one iota what you've done with our days. Jeez. Good of you to try to be there for your mom/grandma. I know how that is with grandfathers. I lost both to complications w/ strokes. (one managed to live several years after his 1st...)

Seriously man. If you need something, that's what we're here for.

MoonB · 03-14-2006, 04:47 PM

thanks wy

**Dragoness_Cutie** · 03-14-2006, 05:36 PM

Honey, don't worry about bringing down anyone's day or anything... this is what we're all here for! To share with eachother and to vent when we need to, etc.

You're family really has had it rough. My condolences to you. Mine has had it a bit rough as well... two of my uncles murdered, and my grandmother lost to diabetes/heart failure. And now another one of my uncles looks like he will be gone soon... inoperable brain tumor, among other aliments.

Just want you to know that I know where you're coming from, and if you ever need to talk, I'm here for you.

MoonB · 03-14-2006, 07:55 PM

Thanks DC...my uncles has been hard, I don't think we will ever find out who or why they did this to him. And the cops don't seem to care, I guess its because of beening in a bad area in a major city. I have much better respect for Houston police now over Cleveland.

If you don't mind me asking, did they ever find the persons behind you uncles?

wyeast · 03-14-2006, 08:19 PM

I don't have much respect for Cleveland to begin with.

Tho' living in a less-than-shiny section of town I guess I can understand. If they think it's someone he knows tho', you'd think they'd have something to go on. Is it possible they're just not clueing you guys in on the investigation? (esp if they assume it's "on the inside")?

MoonB · 03-14-2006, 08:40 PM

Yea, thats my issue with the whole ordeal. I have moved on from the shock and sadness from last week, to a little anger with the whole ordeal. But my main thing is to help my mom and grandma cope.

Babbaloo · 03-15-2006, 09:20 AM

I'm really sorry for your losses MoonB. If there is anything I can do, please let me know, mate.

**Sp00k** · 03-15-2006, 10:21 AM

Moonb, thats is a very moving account of your life's troubles. Life is ultimately more than unfair to your family & no words of wisdom will give redemption or consolation. You take all the time you need to rally the rest of your family together & cherish the good times you all shared.

As for you not being here, well that is irrelevant in your present circumstances. At least you called in & hopefully found a bit of solace with your friends here. If you want to talk to us I know you will in your own good time. Right now you have more important things to attend to.

In the meantime take care of yourself & your loved ones. We'll be thinking of you in your time of need & I hope you take some small comfort in that we are indeed your friends.

**Dragoness_Cutie** · 03-15-2006, 01:24 PM

Quoting: MoonB

If you don't mind me asking, did they ever find the persons behind you uncles?

Yes, actually... but none of the men have or probably will ever face a jury for their crimes. The first of my uncles who was killed was killed by three cops, who arrested him on a bogus charge and made it look like he commited suicide in his cell. Even though everyone knows it isn't true, no one was ever able to prove it.

As far as my second uncle... well... the cops again stepped in and ruled it as killing in self-defense, even though my uncle was leaving the man's property and did him no harm. I'm sorry... but a total of six shots, all in a man's back as he was trying to leave... that's not self-defense.

Dragoness_Cutie - Proud Mod of AfterSeppuku!

Quoting: wisecat

grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence until you get over there and fall in a hole

darkknight301 · 03-15-2006, 03:41 PM

Sorry MoonB, if you need us we're here...

*G_Man* · 03-15-2006, 04:06 PM

Hey, Moonie. I purposely skipped over this thread when it was posted as I didn't want to read anything as important as the title implied and not be able to take time to really read it and think about it.

First, I want you to know that your post is the main reason this forum even exists. When I left you-know-where, I felt I like I wanted to provide a place for my friends to meet and share what was up in their lives. sounds like a lot has been up in your life and I am actually honored you posted about it here.

As for any advise, all I want to say is that I doubt I have any that you aren't already following.

Keep strong and you'll get to where you need to be and feel free to post more if you need to. Lots of people here for you.

MoonB · 03-15-2006, 07:48 PM

Thanks again all of you...it is kinda tharputic writing it down. Thanks again, if I get anything more positive out of the whole ordeal I will let you all know.